You go to a playgroup and moms are sitting and chatting while you chase your child and are constantly 'harping' on him to put that down and be aware of his surroundings. Other parents think you're overprotective, too strict, or not strict enough. Your parenting skills are under scrutiny and your thoughts are filled with getting out of there without incident.
You finally do get to visit parents without chasing your child because your husband felt sorry for you or did something that warranted guilt, so you are getting of the house. You know that's the only way because there isn't enough money in the world to pay a babysitter without her having insurance, she may not get out of alive! The competition begins about who has the 'best' child. "My child talked at 12 months and said 'cup'", "My child talked full sentences by the time they were two", "My child was toilet trained by 15 months" and now you are wondering how much of it is exaggerated and how much of it is true. Finally you are brave and you pipe in, "My child talked at 4 yrs old and was toilet trained last month at 7 yrs old". Now you get the pity look - side head tilt with a slight nod. You were quite proud of those moments and you are wondering why they aren't praising the moment as you did!
You turn to family because they are the only ones that have always been there. They are so glad 'you brought it up' because they have been wanting to be 'open' with you. Now that you are not talking to them anymore, where do you turn?
Our days are filled with therapy appointments, learning, house cleaning, and some of us work on top of it all! We don't have time for friendships that bond and we are okay with that. Friends who previously were supportive have ditched us because they don't understand our children or our lives. We don't hold it against them because we hardly understand what has happened to us! Days turn to months which turn to years and you look back and think, now what?
I would like to give a special shout out to my 'online world' and give links for you to join these groups too! Whether you homeschool your special needs child or not, these groups will accept you. I have found support, information, laughter, tears of understanding, and kindness with my world of SUPER-MOMs. I hope you do too!
All Kinds Of Learners Yahoo Group
Special Needs Parents Homeschooling Special Needs Kids Yahoo Group
Special Needs Homeschool Yahoo Group (our group for this website)
If you are on Facebook:
Special Needs Homeschool
All Kinds Of Learners
Special Needs Parents Homeschooling Special Needs Kids
Children With Multiple Disabilities
Parenting Kiddo's With Invisible Disabilities
Sensory Street, Inc.